Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.
Remember that Rasulullah (Pbuh)
would always start with Miswak when returning home and
always loved the sweetest smells.
(Dress up for your wife when you are at home also.
Some brothers only dress up when they go out and that
is not a good practice. A husband should dress up for
his wife when they are at home. It makes a wife feel
2) Sweet Names
Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasulullah (Pbuh)
had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved.
Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and
avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
(Remember, you are your wife's only boyfriend, and her
only best friend. She does not go out seeking
boyfriends and she shares a halal relationship with
you. Love her unconditionally for the sake of Allah.
And express your love to her. A woman likes to be told
that she is loved. Call her from your work to make
sure she is doing fine. These things are very
important in a relationship. )
3) Reward Her Actions
't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly
in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a
wife will do well all day - which brings no attention
from the husband - until she does something to 'bug'
him. 't treat her like this; recognize all the good
that she does and focus on that.
(Whenever there is a fight or argument, just remember
all the things she does for you. she cooks for you,
she takes care of your home, she takes care of your
children and the most important thing is that she
guards her modesty. So do not upset her if she is
upset with you. Hold her and tell her that you love
her. Only your love can repel her anger. Communicate
with her and discuss with her if there are any
4) Remain Silent
If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and
do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasulullah
(Pbuh) used when he would see something inappropriate
from his wives. It's a technique that few Muslim men
(Do not criticize her all the time. Trust her and
trust her decisions. If she is doing something that
you don't like, or that goes against the teachings of
Islam, then do advice her gently.)
Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace
her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not
exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her
constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those
Ahadith when Rasulullah (Pbuh) would kiss his wife
before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.
(Do let your wife know that you are very happy and
blessed to have her. A wife always wonders how her
husband feels about her. She may have some insecurity
about you, so make her feel secure. Always give her a
hug whenever you come back from work. Appreciate her
and thank her for taking care of everything whole
6) Acknowledge Her
Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank
her again! Take for example a dinner at your house.
She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other
tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only
acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be
more salt in the soup. 't let that be; thank her!
(You can thank her by writing her letters and emails.
Remember, in Islam, everyday is special. So celebrate
wife's day with her, and do it very often without
having a particular date. She will always wonder when
the wife's day is going to be.
Thank her by thanking her in a family gathering. A
woman likes it when her husband gives her attention.
If you visit her parents or your parents, hold her
hands and tell your parents how happy you are after
marriage. Give your wife an Islamic book as a gift
after praying Tahajjud. Use your imagination and think
about unique gifts. Remember, she does not need a
diamond, she needs your sincerity and your heart, so
always give her the gifts that are thoughtful.
Whenever you do something to make her happy, observe
her facial expressions and ask yourself about how you
feel when you become her happiness.)
7) Be Compassionate
Do not expect too much from her when she is sick.
8) Validate her Feelings
't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the
men may look down upon the requests of their wives.
Rasulullah (Pbuh) set the example for us in an
incident when Safiyyah was crying because, as she
said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her
tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
(If there is a time of sadness, give her your shoulder
to cry on. Hold her and tell her that everything will
be fine. Remember, a woman does not like to cry alone
in a corner. She needs someone to hold her when she is
sad, so never let her feel lonely. Remind her the
verses from Qur'an that talks about Patience and
9) Have Fun!
Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how
Rasulullah (Pbuh) would race his wife Aisha in the
desert. When was the last time we did something like
(A sense of humor plays a very important role in a
marital relationship. Most women wish to have a
husband who has a good sense of humor. Tell her decent
and modest jokes that make her happy. A wife
appreciates it very much if her husband makes her
smile. You can play various games at home.
Do not spend too much time reading newspaper, and do
not read newspaper on the breakfast table, rather have
an Islamic discussion. If you want to get her to like
newspaper, then try to find something that interests
her. Such as, try to find a news about Hijab. Or try
to find a news about Muslim women for her.)
10) Be The Best
Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (Pbuh):
"The best of you are those who treat their families
the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family."
Try to be the best! In conclusion: Never forget to
make Dua to Allah to make your marriage successful.
And Allah ta'ala knows best!
(And once again: Remember she is your garment and you
are her garment, so hide her faults and mistakes.
Learn to forgive her. Also communicate a lot with her
family. It really makes a difference if husband
communicates with his in laws. It helps both husband's
and wife's family to share a beautiful relationship.
Respect her parents and show your love to her family.
This will inspire her to love and respect your
Spend lots of time praying to Allah swt. Do fast often
even if it is not Ramadan. Fasting brings patience and
taqwah. Lead her in the prayer. There is nothing
better than praying together. Remember Allah, so that
Allah remembers you.